Informed Families: The Best Partners During Transition

At this very moment, children all across the country are preparing to start school and their families are probably feeling a lot like my own family is feeling about our daughter (Makena) starting kindergarten: excited and anxious about the year ahead of us. As you support families during these transitional times, try to build on their excitement while easing their worries.

3 Commitments to Support Families During This Transition

Commitment 1: Keep the social–emotional needs of their children first and foremost.
Most important to me as a parent facing the start of my daughter’s kindergarten year is that Makena is safe, happy, and feels like she belongs. Last month, Makena joined a kindergarten camp, and I observed the teacher using three key strategies to establish positive relationships:

• She invited families to participate in an orientation so they could meet the teacher, get an overview of the programming for the camp, ask questions, and provide feedback.
• She invited students to meet with her, one-on-one, so she could learn something about them before they were all in a large group together. She encouraged the students to bring a favorite book and a favorite toy to this one-on-one meeting so they would have a way to start a conversation that was relevant and meaningful to the student.
• She started the first day, and each day thereafter, with a simple check-in ritual that allowed the children a way to acknowledge who was present and who was missing.

Commitment 2: Keep communication honest, open, and frequent.
Regular communication is an essential part of effective family partnerships. Try to communicate program or classroom changes as soon as possible so families can work with their children to prepare for new or different schedules or routines. Develop ways for families to share feedback on how learning is going. These strategies for ongoing communication can help lessen concerns and create more robust relationships with families.

Commitment 3: Be kind.
Starting school is often a new environment for both families and children. It’s important for the adults—educators, administrators, family members—to be empathetic and kind to one another. The Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL) puts it this way: “Attend to the well-being and mutual support among adults.” Committing to kindness can help any time, but can be especially welcome when circumstances are new or stressful.